Self-love: I should’ve said stop – but I didn’t (and here’s what I learned)

Self-love

When I look back at my life I now recognize many situations where I should’ve said stop or no, but I didn’t. There are many reasons for that, but underlying all of them was a need to be loved (self-love was not in my vocabulary at the time). Like when a seemingly friendly man would touch me inappropriately and I didn’t say anything because then he might think I was a prude and therefore not worth loving. Or when I was working way too hard, taking on too many tasks at work, to prove myself worthy of love.

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Why I Think Empowerment of Women Starts with Men

Empowerment of women

My daughter Maitri, who is 14 years old, was not very impressed with the notion of Women’s International Day and all the talks about equal rights and women’s empowerment. Every day she experiences one form or the other of male chauvinism, or of patriarchal or patronizing attitude towards herself or other girls/women. She also often experiences what she calls a collective hypocrisy of respecting the feminine, leading to a dis-empowerment of women.

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Awareness in Lovemaking: An Unexplored Aphrodisiac

Awareness in lovemaking

In the years we’ve been working with couples on issues related to love, intimacy and lovemaking both men and women have raised a common concern. Many of them are disappointed with the short-lived sexual quickies. Especially the women have expressed a desire for lovemaking that makes them feel more connected; where their partner is not rushing towards the goal of coming or trying to push her to reach an orgasm.

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Relax into lovemaking and become more alive, present and connected

Relax into lovemaking

Until a few years back I didn’t even think of lovemaking and relaxation in the same sentence. In fact, I used to believe that you should never be relaxed into lovemaking. To me, making love was all about speed, being dynamic and forceful. It was a mechanism to demonstrate my manliness, seek to give pleasure to my partner and myself, become a father to a child, and feed my biological need.

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Reaching out to the feminine 

Reaching out to the feminine

We seem to have forgotten the essential connection between the masculine and the feminine. Presence (which is the ultimate masculine energy), is continually fed information from our inner life, and the awareness of our inner life is strengthened by our presence. But if we never take the time to be present – because we’re too busy reaching the next goal, or meeting others expectations for us – how will we ever bring balance in our life?

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No Time for Intimacy? Here’s How to Change It.

No time for intimacy

Have you ever felt there weren’t enough hours in the day to fit in all the things you want to do? Do you compromise on the important stuff in life like intimacy, connection and a deep loving relation with your partner, only to find yourself doing things that actually doesn’t make you happy? If you want to go to bed at night feeling connected to your partner and feeling like it’s been a good, soulful and fulfilling day – even though it might have been a packed day, keep on reading.

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